Logan is an Infantry Officer in the US Army and he is part of the World Class Athlete Program at Fort Carson in Colorado Springs. This means that he competes for the US Army in Modern Pentathlon. Modern Pentathlon is the sport of fencing, swimming, running, shooting, and equestrian. He was an alternate for 2016 Olympics.
Starting in 2012, our whole relationship has been ping-ponged schedules in order to see each other. For the first couple years we’d see each other for only a couple months. Then toward the Olympics it was only a couple of weeks a year. I’d be traveling for races and training overseas, I’d come home and then he would leave for competitions and come back. We were two ships in the night. After 2016, I moved back full time to train in Colorado Springs because we were starting to grow apart. I wanted to grow together. I may have sacrificed a portion of my triathlon career, but I love starting and ending each day with my husband by my side.
In 2018 we spent about 10 months apart. I was travelling for races and training in Colorado Springs, where we own our home. He spent most of 2018 in Fort Benning, Georgia and is now in Ranger School. I realized the longer we’re married, the more time I want to spend with him. It gets harder to be apart the older we get. When I was younger, I didn’t mind being away 9 months of the year to train, but now I miss him all the time.
I think the secret to distance is to keep in contact as much as you can, but don’t become dependent and don’t get upset when you can’t talk. Find hobbies. Find friends. Sign up for a USA Triathlon race. I’m lucky to have a career that allows me to train all over the place, so I fill my time working out. It’s hard when I can’t talk to him, but that’s what your friends and wine are for.
The army wife life has been way harder than being apart for triathlon and Logan hasn’t even been deployed overseas yet. The strength of these women and families is unbelievable. You have to have a support system to get through this. These wives are independent, strong, courageous. They have to parent on their own, they’re constantly moving and joining new communities, they have to have the backbone of their families and be prepared for what comes next. I’m glad I have found that support and I have made some of my best friends through the army.